I gave the older kids assignments on Zulhijjah and Hajj.
- N – virtues of 10 days of Zulhijjah
- S- find ayaat in Quran related to hajj
- H- research the rites of Hajj
After Fajr, we did our Friday routine, we listened to Nouman Khan’s Quran Cover to Cover of Surah Kahf. Then S had make up group bec she missed it on the PSAT day.
Ayaat from Quran related to Hajj:
I did some explanation on these ayaat though I added some that S didn’t find here.
Al Baqarah 125
And [mention] when We made the House a place of return for the people and [a place of] security. And take, [O believers], from the standing place of Abraham a place of prayer. And We charged Abraham and Ishmael, [saying], “Purify My House for those who perform Tawaf and those who are staying [there] for worship and those who bow and prostrate [in prayer].”
Al Baqarah 128
Al Baqarah 158
Indeed, as-Safa and al-Marwah are among the symbols of Allah . So whoever makes Hajj to the House or performs ‘umrah – there is no blame upon him for walking between them. And whoever volunteers good – then indeed, Allah is appreciative and Knowing.
Al Baqarah 189
And complete the Hajj and ‘umrah for Allah . But if you are prevented, then [offer] what can be obtained with ease of sacrificial animals. And do not shave your heads until the sacrificial animal has reached its place of slaughter. And whoever among you is ill or has an ailment of the head [making shaving necessary must offer] a ransom of fasting [three days] or charity or sacrifice. And when you are secure, then whoever performs ‘umrah [during the Hajj months] followed by Hajj [offers] what can be obtained with ease of sacrificial animals. And whoever cannot find [or afford such an animal] – then a fast of three days during Hajj and of seven when you have returned [home]. Those are ten complete [days]. This is for those whose family is not in the area of al-Masjid al-Haram. And fear Allah and know that Allah is severe in penalty.
Hajj is [during] well-known months, so whoever has made Hajj obligatory upon himself therein [by entering the state of ihram], there is [to be for him] no sexual relations and no disobedience and no disputing during Hajj. And whatever good you do – Allah knows it. And take provisions, but indeed, the best provision is fear of Allah . And fear Me, O you of understanding.
There is no blame upon you for seeking bounty from your Lord [during Hajj]. But when you depart from ‘Arafat, remember Allah at al- Mash’ar al-Haram. And remember Him, as He has guided you, for indeed, you were before that among those astray.
Then depart from the place from where [all] the people depart and ask forgiveness of Allah . Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.
And when you have completed your rites, remember Allah like your [previous] remembrance of your fathers or with [much] greater remembrance. And among the people is he who says, “Our Lord, give us in this world,” and he will have in the Hereafter no share.
But among them is he who says, “Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire.”
Those will have a share of what they have earned, and Allah is swift in account.
And remember Allah during [specific] numbered days. Then whoever hastens [his departure] in two days – there is no sin upon him; and whoever delays [until the third] – there is no sin upon him – for him who fears Allah . And fear Allah and know that unto Him you will be gathered.
Q: Okay, but what about Eid Al Adha then?
A: Hajj!, Hajj is difficult.
Q: But what about the rest of us who are not doing Hajj?
A: Day of Arafah, fasting on that day, and the 10 days.
Q: Ok, I want you to look for a pattern in this. What do you notice about the last part of the days just before Eid?
A: Last 10 nights in Ramadan and first 10 days of Zulhijjah
Q: What about them? What do we do in the last 10 nights of Ramadan?
A: Lailatul Qadr.
Q: How about first 10 days of Zulhijjah?
A: fasting and zhikr
Q: So we increase more in worship in these last/first 10 days and then we have eid. [they didn't get to the point I was trying to get them to]. Give me an analogy of this in real life.
A: [H] It’s like when Nadal plays tennis, and he messes up his leg in the process and then he wins
A: [S] It’s like studying for a test. You study and then close to the day of the test you study really hard
Q: Yeah, so it’s like a race, right? Long distance running. You can ask Abi, he did this. I did it too, once and the only one time.
A: You lost right?
Q: Yeah, but Abi won. He was first. So, a lap is I think about 400 meters, so an 800 meters race is two laps. When they shoot the gun, how do the runners run?
A: They jog, like this [H demonstrates]
Q: Yeah, and then once they finish going around the lap, they start to speed up to take their place, and when they are close to the finish line, they sprint.
A: That’s like horse races too [S]
A: [S] When I race, I run just behind the first place and then I sprint to the finish line.
Q: So there is that intense increase towards the end, right? That’s what we do before both Eids.
As I am typing this, I just remembered why I began this discussion. Because there were too many little distractions from Z and I was rushing to finish up because I had class (which I was late for because I thought it started at 9:30!), I forgot the point of asking them this. My point is that, Allah has made our two annual celebrations, our major celebration as a celebration that has a purpose. They celebrate struggle, struggle in obeying Him. Just like He has not created anything in this world without a purpose, He has also prescribed our yearly celebrations with solid purposes.
And it is based on this also that I have established celebrations in our family. We don’t do birthdays. But I would make and decorate cakes for events of accomplishments and motivation, or just a surprise. It feels more…purposeful that way. And it doesn’t happen too often, so one doesn’t begin to expect it. When one begins to expect a celebration in which gifts will be given to him, it has the potential of creating an attitude of ingratitude, self pity, ill feelings when he doesn’t get it for whatever reason. When treats or gifts are not expected, it makes it more precious.
We don’t do fast food and we don’t eat out much. So when hubs actually offers to have us eat out, like in Dallas, when he offered ice cream or something for me after I was done with my workshop, it felt like a real special treat. Every day, after picking me up, we would go to the McDonalds and get some dessert, either the Frappe or the hot chocolate. Only the two of us went, but we would go back to the hotel and share with the kids. It’s not a regular thing that we do, for if it becomes regular, I guess it might lose its once-in-a-blue-moon value. In moderation is always the best way to go. In our case, it’s more like a 9:1 ratio. It’s all good alhamdulillah. This life is temporary, it’s not our permanent home. We have permanent homes waiting for us, and we get to work for which one we want to go to. So, while it’s permissible and even to some point encouraged to enjoy this life, there should be a limit and there should be moderation. It’s easy to get carried away with ‘fun’, so keeping a tab on it can be pretty important. Though of course, moderation means that we don’t limit ourselves too much that we are too heavily leaning to the All work and no play side of the see saw. Balance.
Hajj – May Allah enable us to go soon. Ameen.